Comments on: Discipline, Parents, Books and Baloney

By: Danielle

Danielle — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 01:41:21 +0000

Oh and I forgot to mention….the biggest portion! It’s science based, explaining how the brain works, and how you can help your child learn to problem solve and make the right choices. (Yes, at two, at three, at four, at five). From the website:
Conscious Discipline is specifically designed to teach the following:
– Anger management
– Helpfulness (pro-social skills)
– Assertiveness
– Impulse Control
– Cooperation
– Empathy
– Problem solving
And that’s with the parents and the kids….

By: Danielle

Danielle — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 01:32:10 +0000

I have not read this book but I enjoyed your section on “helpful tips” for temper tantrums. If you like those options, you may want to check out Conscious Discipline [www.consciousdiscipline.com]. It’s a theory that my preschool operates under and can be applied to a home, classroom, or your own life [brace yourself because there is some sunshine and rainbows and "take a deep breath and wish it all away" kind of mumbo jumbo but BEYOND that]. It shows clear obvious reasons why it’s important to reframe a child’s behavior positively, gain your own composure so you can handle the child [that's where some of the take a deep breath junk comes in], how to offer choices, and how to effectively deliver consequences. It also offers suggestions of how to connect with a child. “Connect first, direct second”.

I have NOT read any of Becky Bailey’s books but I have seen her dvd series, I’ve used the principles in my class with a variety of ages (some of it with infants even, but mostly from 1 year up to 12 years), and I’ve heard her certified trainers give workshops. In my opinion, it is worth looking into to bring awareness of why some things do not work and why we as parents continue to use them anyway. My suggestion if your use is as a parent would be to try out “Easy to love, Difficult to Discipline” as the most cost effective (and geared towards the home) book. Again, I am not recommending the book to you but I’m recommending the theory to you….I hope that this book brings it across in the effective way that I was taught it.

I’m actually currently attending a week long workshop with one of her trainers at the moment and am inspired into purchasing this book for myself to add to my knowledge. If you decide to check it out, please keep me posted on your opinions and thoughts

By: Jenny

Jenny — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 01:16:14 +0000

I am so going to get that book! I felt EXACTLY the same as you about the scream-free parenting. ANd the No-Cry sleep solution made me feel sooooo much better about everything.
I’m so glad I read this!
Thanks!

By: StorkWatcher

StorkWatcher — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 20:32:00 +0000

Oh my gosh – how have I missed this? I LOVED her No Cry Sleep solution for Toddlers and plan to check out the potty training- where was the discipline version on my library shelf? I’m adding to my list to get! Thanks!

By: FireMom

FireMom — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 03:15:40 +0000

Audrey; Thanks! Glad to be of service.

By: Audrey - Pinks & Blues Girls

Audrey - Pinks & Blues Girls — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 00:50:27 +0000

WOW! This post is fantastic! I just read through this post twice and actually took notes from it!! Thanks so much for this!!
- Audrey

By: FireMom

FireMom — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 19:43:00 +0000

Leah; Yes. The Potty Training book was fabulous. A few Moms have complained, stating that the ideas in the book are “common sense.” But the ideas weren’t on my list of common knowledge ideas. It really helped us to better help BB. (I should update about potty issues, no? Soon.)

By: FireMom

FireMom — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 19:41:25 +0000

Coco; A few people suggested Weissbluth’s book to me when we were dealing with BB’s sleep issues. I read some reviews, both on Amazon and on other (wonderful) Mommy blogs and knew, without picking up the book in my own two hands, that it wasn’t for us. And, thank you, my dear. I’m needing some encouragement as of late. Ugh.

By: Coco

Coco — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 17:51:29 +0000

I love Elizabeth Pantley. She is about the only parenting author who doesn’t make me want to throw the book across the room when I read her stuff.

Hey, did you ever read “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”? If not, DON’T. Talk about preachy and unhelpful. The whole thing read like “You have a responsibility to make your child a healthy sleeper by (essentially ignoring their needs)! If your child isn’t sleeping well it is your fault! You must be doing something wrong!” I cried for an hour. Then I threw it away and picked up Pantley. It was like the sun burst through the clouds.

Also, in case I haven’t mentioned lately, you are an awesome mom. You really are. Hugs.

By: Katherine Stone

Katherine Stone — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 16:14:52 +0000

I love how you’ve touched on the issue that certain types of books and authors only make those of us with PPD and anxiety feel horribly worse. So true!!!! Some of these books need a black box warning.