Bloggers Unite Fight for Preemies – Our Stories

Today our oldest son turns four! Today we are participating in the Bloggers Unite Fight for Preemies sponsored by March of Dimes. The two events falling on the same day isn’t a mere coincidence. While BigBrother was born at full term (38 weeks, 4 days), it was only by the medical research and science made possible by people who care enough about prematurity to do something about it.

During my first pregnancy with the Munchkin it was determined that I had a kidney disorder. I had two surgeries during that pregnancy in a futile attempt to fix what was wrong. I was put on bed rest at 18 weeks. I was rushed to the hospital via ambulance at 32 weeks with labor that wasn’t able to be stopped at our local hospital. Thanks to medical intervention (and lots of bed rest), she was born healthy and full term.

It was determined after Munchkin’s birth that I wouldn’t always have two kidneys and, as such, my child bearing years were numbered. While you can be pregnant with one kidney, my nephrologist said that it wasn’t in our best interest to attempt a pregnancy after the loss of the kidney, predicted to happen some time in my early 30′s. And so, we tried to conceive, successfully, shortly after we got married. The pregnancy was similarly complicated, minus a lights-and-sirens trip via ambulance. I made it to 30 weeks before I was put on bed rest. I had to take medicine daily in order to keep the contractions (and, as such, labor) at bay. I received steroid shots, twice, in order to mature BigBrother’s lungs. Like my pregnancy with the Munchkin, I was given statistics each week as to how likely he would be to survive if he was born during that week of gestation.

No mother should ever have to be aware of such statistics. It’s scary! I’m sure it’s meant to be reassuring but it’s scary. I am thankful, however, that there are scientists, doctors and researchers working to up the odds of each week.

As I said, BigBrother was born full term and quite healthy on this day four years ago. My right kidney completely shut down, I went toxemic and was induced to get him out as soon as possible. I am thankful for the doctors and nurses that worked so hard to give us a healthy experience.

Our family currently walks in the March for Babies every year (minus one). (LittleBrother’s story is similar except that I wasn’t induced as my kidney never completely shut down.) We are one of the lucky, success stories of what years of research have done. We are proof that miracles can and do happen. And yet we are all too well aware of how lucky we are. In addition to our complicated pregnancies, we have one unexplained miscarriage under our belt. More over, we are friends with far too many that have experienced later term miscarriage, stillbirth and the loss of their premature babies. We continue to support the work of the March of Dimes because we stand in solidarity with our friends and family in hopes that no one else ever has to endure such a loss. We stand as proof of the work that has been done while hoping, praying and supporting the work that needs to be done in order to ensure that the stories of loss become a thing of our past.

You can read others posts regarding the Fight for Preemies and experiences as to how prematurity has touched other lives. If you have a story, please share it. If you feel so inclined, donate to March of Dimes or read more about how you can participate.

We are so thankful. We are so blessed. We will continue to support the work that the March of Dimes does.