Comments on: So Close in Age but So Different

By: call_me_ps

call_me_ps — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 07:51:56 +0000

You and me both. I am constantly marveling over how different my two girls are. I can’t get over. It’s like everything I learned with my oldest does!not!apply! to my youngest and I feel like I’m a first time Mom all over again. From schedules (or lack thereof) to internal clocks to interests to temperaments to food choices…nothing is the same. Mine are not quite as close as yours (2 years, 4 months versus almost 2 years exactly) but pretty darn. My sister and I were also 2 years apart. I guess I expected them to be more similar like she and I were. But still. I think she’s the favorite. She thinks I am. And we’ve been living out of our parents’ home almost as long as we were in it. I think that’s a battle no parent can win, no matter how amazing they are.

And you are pretty damn amazing.

By: Robyn

Robyn — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:13:18 +0000

“They do almost nothing in the same manner. As such, they require different parenting techniques.”

That is the key, and why you are a Good Mommy ™.

My sister and I were 19 months apart. We are TOTALLY different. Our parents decided that didn’t matter. Thus, my sister and I? Not so good. You recognize that your boys are different, and worry about it, and DO something about it. That is good.

By: Lisa @ Boondock Ramblings

Lisa @ Boondock Ramblings — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 04:49:28 +0000

Not that your boy is too grown up or has to be, he doesn’t…..I’m trying to hold my 3-year old and type and finish a thought and it really isn’t working because he keeps asking to sit on my lap and I want him to sit in the chair next to me but then again, I want him to sit on my lap because I know one day he won’t want to anymore!

By: Lisa @ Boondock Ramblings

Lisa @ Boondock Ramblings — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 04:47:15 +0000

My brother was eight years older than me so we didn’t have these issues, but we had other issues. My sister-in-law has five girls and there are times I feel very sorry for the oldest, who is often told she needs to act this way, or that, because her sisters are watching her, etc. IT has to be hard to be so grown up at such a young age.

By: Danielle

Danielle — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 22:00:49 +0000

Wow. I am the older sister of a younger brother and I totally got the ‘be the bigger person’ line. A lot.

My brother and I are only 16 months apart in age, but we are so, so, so very different. Looking back I can see how different situations may have looked like my parents favored one of us over the other.

When we complained about this though, the parental line was ‘you get what you need, and he gets what he needs. Sometimes you both get what you want. You know though, life’s not fair. We try to give you both our best at all times.’

We both turned out pretty well. I think two within two-ish years or less is really tough though. I think you do a good job (from what you share here) showing and teaching BB and LB that everyone has a turn for birthdays, bad days, fun days, sick days. I think the pros outweigh the cons on kids closely spaced (disclaimer: I don’t have kids yet. I was a nanny and a closely spaced kid).

Sorry for the essay. Love your blog.