What I Wore Sunday, November 10, 2013

WIWSunday, November 10, 2013

I disappointed myself today.

My husband has been on this kick about the Big Things he wants to teach our sons, the important things that we kind of overlook as important sometimes. Life’s little lessons that aren’t really so little. He wants to present them in age appropriate bites of knowledge, so at this point, it would be things like, “Be brave.”

Not Brave

I wasn’t brave today.

BOOT!

I’m not good at confrontation, even when I know what is being said or done is wrong. I second guess myself. I doubt whether I should be involved, step forward, if it’s my place stick up for someone else. It’s part of my personality though; I like to think things through — often to the point of overthinking — before doing something. While one might argue that course of action is better than impulsivity, it sometimes results in a lack of doing anything. At all. That’s not good either. I struggle to find that middle ground.

No Sweater

My lack of action this morning bothered me all day. I took a nap, something I rarely do, and woke up with the issue in my head and on my heart. I figured that functioned as some kind of sign, so I made some calls and put wheels in motion to rectify the situation at hand. I feel upset that I didn’t step in right away, especially as our Pastor’s sermon focused on taking care of others.

I hope to add to the conversation with our sons about being brave after the lessons I learned today. Sometimes being brave means taking time to think it through, to do a thorough gut-check and make sure that you’re following the right course of action. Sometimes being brave means thinking twice. Sometimes being brave means making a phone call even when you just want to ignore what happened.

Sometimes being brave means stepping forward when you just want to sit back.

Be brave.

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10 Comments

  1. I have the opposite problem. I speak too soon, don’t know the whole story and end up apologizing.

    Maybe we can help each other.

    I love your green nails and THAT sweater~~ (also the haircut)

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    • I have a history of the too fast talking, needing to apologize, so I have swung too far in the opposite direction. Though, when I think about the too fast things? Well, sometimes they just needed to be said and I shouldn’t feel responsible for the reaction. It’s hard to maneuver some of these interactions with other people.

      That sweater is my new fav, even though it attracts ALL THE DOG HAIR.

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  2. Sometimes you have to experience hesitation to find you strength to step forward.

    This was a beautiful revelatory post. Thank you for sharing it with us.

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    • I like that saying. I am going to commit it to memory!

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  3. I tend to do the same. I don’t want to impulsively react to something and I want to give it some thought but then I feel like I miss my opportunity to do something about it. Then I beat myself up and yell at myself, “Nice going, Marj. STUPID STUPID STUPID.” and I know the bad self-talk needs to stop, too. Sigh. It’s never easy, is it?

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    • Yes. There are times that I come up with something REALLY GOOD days later. Sigh.

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  4. I kind of admire you for having the instinct to stop and think things through. SO many times I have done exactly the opposite and then had to regret what I said or did. SO. Many. Times.

    At least you were able to rectify not stepping up right away. It’s really hard to un-stick-your-foot-in-your-mouth.

    This why I have to buy delicious shoes.

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    • I’m learning. Slowly. I just wish I hadn’t swung too far in the other direction.

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  5. You took steps to rectify the situation. That’s bravery. Well thought out bravery. ;)

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    • Thanks, dear. :)

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