I would have yelled for them to get down. “It’s not safe!” “You’ll hurt yourselves!” Sometimes it still makes me nervous; not so much the small slide in our yard but life in general. Letting them climb up. Watching them make a decision. “Should I jump? Or not? What would Buzz do?”

Buzz would obviously stick out his arms. Recite, “To infinity… and beyond!”

And fling himself into the great unknown.

And isn’t that what we want for our children?

For them to feel comfortable enough to climb to the top of whatever they are facing. To stand with bravery and make a decision. To tell themselves they can do it. And to go — to fling themselves into the great unknown of life.

And then, whether it’s fun or something not so fun, to climb back up, look to you for approval, and do it all over again.

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A gentle breeze blew the sound of the clock tower on our local courthouse toward us as it chimed that another hour of our lives passed us by. I heard it — but didn’t at the same time. It is a sound I take for granted, that sometimes we hear the bells and sometimes we don’t. Like much of life — sometimes we get it, sometimes we don’t. I continued reading, lost in the moment of happy boys and warm breezes and moments passing.

“What was that?” BigBrother poked my leg to get my attention.

I looked at him, crouched in front of toys that have been dubbed “deck” toys — left outside during the non-stop rain of this odd winter, dirty and old. I thought of Woody and Buzz and wondered if the boys would notice if the old castle made its way to the city dump. “What, Buddy?”

“That noise. What was that noise?” He looked off in the direction of down town, the breeze tousling the front of his too long hair. I made a mental note to nag my husband to cut the boys’ hair.

“Oh, that’s just the courthouse bells.”

He kept looking in the direction of the courthouse and I watched the wheels in his head turn. I saw him visualize the drive to our house; turn left, turn right, turn left, go straight, some stop lights, turn right, up a hill, down a hill, home. That’s quite a ways to a six-year-old, I suppose. It’s less than a mile really.

“But how can we hear them? We don’t live next to the courthouse. It’s all the way over there, on all those streets away.” He looked at me then, with the questions in his eyes that he always has, wanting to know more about the way the world works. He looked to me like I have all the answers, like I am the All Knowing of All Knowings and, for a moment, I wondered how many times I will truly fail him by my lack of knowledge.

“Sound carries, Buddy.”

“Oh. Right.”

He looked back toward the courthouse, through the trees, trying to see it with his eyes and not just his mind. The wheels in his head kept turning. I watched him, wondering what was going on that amazing brain of his, knowing it was something so very him-like. He lifted his face toward the sky a bit, pursed his lips…

and whistled.

Did you hear it?

Did you hear him test out what his mother told him to be true?

Did you hear him make sense of the world in his own way?

Did you hear it when I realized that even though I can tell him things that I know to be true, he’ll always have to find out for himself if what I have said was true? Did you hear my sigh when I realized that I am raising a male version of myself; a sigh filled with pride and hope… and fear?

Did you hear my mother, somewhere miles away, whisper, “I told you so,” as a smile wiped across her face?

I did. I heard it all.

Sound carries. I’ve tested it myself.

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I just have to say…

I’m always home.

I have a post brewing about house hunting and selling and all things related, but right now, I’m focusing on what we have. What is in front of us. And I’m okay with all of it.

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What gives? We haven’t had enough snow to play in and it’s nearly February. Right now, it’s currently sleet-ice-raining. In case you didn’t notice, sleet-ice-rain is not snow. It’s crap. Ice is crap, Old Man Winter. Crap. With a capital C.

In November, I made the hair band reference joke, that “nothing lasts forever, even cold November Rain.” But you know what? It has! I understand you’re not in charge of November or even the beginning half of December; that’s the Funky Fall Fairy or whatever. But I thought for sure when we were denied a White Christmas that the snowflakes would soon fly and cover the yard in a spectacular blanket of white.

But no.

We’ve had some snowflakes. Here. And there. But they weren’t even enough to cover the grass (that seems to be growing, what with the 60 degree days in January and all). To top it off, quite literally, you topped off our last snow with a glaze of ice so thick that we couldn’t even park in our own driveway. Not cool. Not cool at all.

All of this would be mostly tolerable, but I kind of made one of those parental slip ups that looms over my head darker than the gray, snowless January clouds. It happened just the other day. LittleBrother was lamenting the fact that we had no snow to play in… yet again. He was getting kind of four-year-old angsty, and I let the words fly before I considered their weight.

“It will snow enough for us to play in this winter, LittleBrother. I promise.”

As soon as I said the words “I promise,” I knew I had gone wrong. I can’t promise anything about weather. In fact, I wouldn’t put it past you, Old Man Winter, to just give us a dusting of snow between now and spring to prove your point. Plus, both the boys and I got new snow boots for Christmas. It’s almost destined not to snow, isn’t it?

And so, I promised my youngest son that it would snow. I promised. And I’ve tried to teach my sons that we keep promises in our family, that our words hold a lot of weight and that we should keep true to our word. But, in my defense, I had only had a half a cup of coffee and was on question number 412 before 9:00 in the morning. Surely you can cut me a little slack?

I don’t need a lot of snow, but I won’t complain if there’s a boatload either. I just want to hear my sons giggle and laugh in the snow. I want to build an angry snowman with them again. I want to look at the joy on their faces, to see the magic in their eyes.

I just want to keep my promise.

So, could you pretty please see what you can do? I’ve defended you for years, and I maintain that winter is my favorite season. Surely you could give back a little. Pretty please, with snowflakes on top?

If not for me…

…for him.

Sincerely With heartfelt love of winter,
FireMom

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Or Wren.

No one sings next to me in church with a deep bass, a bit off the rhythm but with the most joy anyone could muster.

No one calls and asks to speak to Centerfold.

As we move toward buying a new house, I know he won’t be there to help us paint — with a smile. Who paints with a smile anyway? Just him.

My sons no longer have a great-grandpa who gets down on the floor — on his belly — and plays trains. Or cars. Or just hangs out. My kids were so, so blessed.

And yet…

and yet…

While the phone doesn’t ring and I am not greeted by his deep voice… and there are no bone-crushing bear hugs… and I simply miss his face, his voice, his presence…

He will always be with me, with us.

Two years may have passed. Two years without my beloved Papau. But he is still present in our memories, in our stories, in our hearts. In the lives we continue to live.

His legacy lives on through these two little guys.

“They will fly me, like an angel,
To a place where I can rest.”

Missing you tonight… and always.

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BigBrother actually paused his DS and looked at me. “Where are you doing?”

“I’m off to the doctor. Remember, I said it would take awhile.”

“Oh good.”

I raised an eyebrow at him.

“When you’re gone for long times, that means I get to miss you. I like to miss you.”

Huh.

I’ve made choices and rearranged schedules and altered the course of my career to be here. A lot. Most of the time. I travel here and there. And I do actually have a life outside of the walls of my house. But I am here. A lot.

It’s the moments like these that make me confused as to what I’m doing. Here. All the time.

I grew up with a mom who put herself through college when I was a small child, worked her way up the ladder and was both a great mom and a great career woman. She was there when I was younger, and I remember “helping” her study at our coffee table. I don’t think I realized that I was more of a distraction than a help until I was trying to meet deadlines and learn new things with two children under foot. Or, often, on top of my feet as they frequently drive cars and trains and trucks and fire trucks and ambulances and tractors over my toes while I work.

Working from home isn’t always easy. Learning to separate what I do for work from what I do for my family was a hard process, learned (and re-learned) over the past six years. Like Stacy, I share an office with the playroom, though I mostly hang out upstairs since my two sons have been known to make ear drums burst with their volume. Someday I dream of my own office space, one that I don’t have to share with anyone. With a lock on the door, which would be pointless as it would mostly be open and children would be standing in it asking me for water when they can get the water themselves. But I still dream of it. It’s green, obviously.

It’s funny that I love to travel for my job, and I look forward to taking trips to new places. But as the day arrives, I dread leaving my little guys behind. I enjoy my time with my coworkers, meeting new people and experiencing new things, but I love the look on their face when I return. When I got back from my MRI the other day, they looked just as happy. Mainly because it was time to play Super Mario Bros., so it may have been less about me and more about my accidental timing. But I smiled back at them, ready to play.

I dropped the boys off with my mother-in-law to spend the night tonight. We’re having our last holiday celebration tomorrow with my sister-in-law and her husband. Maybe tomorrow when I show up, they will run and hug me and say, “Mommy! I missed you!”

I know I will tell them that I missed them. I always do. That’s why I’m here.

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How do you say no to that?

BigBrother brought out his journal, his crayon and pencil bag and sat down at the table while I busied myself with post-dinner and general evening clean up chores. LittleBrother saw what was going on and ran to get his notebook and writing utensils. They sat together, writing in their separate spaces and chattering at loud volumes.

I took a load of laundry downstairs. I laid out clothes for tomorrow. I finished the dishes. No one bothered me or pulled on my pant leg or whined or argued or even got out of a chair. I turned around to find them still at the table, crayons and pencils all over the all ready cluttered table. But instead of writing in two separate notebooks, they were writing in one.

“I know, I’ll write BOOM! here, next to the man.” Then he sounded out the word, helping himself as he went along. “Oo. The oo sound comes from two o’s. Boom!”

“Yeah! Now we need to draw a big circle thingy over here!” LittleBrother pointed and BigBrother obliged.

I stood in silence, taking in the moment before reaching for my camera.

“We’re drawing our own comic book, Mommy. Like George and Harold in Captain Underpants!”

“That’s fantastic.”

They continued on for much longer than I expected, even after we had an explosion of pencil shavings right after I finished cleaning up the floor. They were entranced with their story, with their drawings, with helping each other.

As we got ready for bed, they continued to talk about their masterpiece, the book that they were going to write.

“I can be the illustrator. And the writer. I can be both, right Mommy?”

I told him that he could; that he could be anything he wanted to be.

“I’ll let LittleBrother be both too, of course.”

Of course.

We finished our evening activities reading another chapter of Captain Underpants together. It’s the second book with the talking toilets. Yum yum, eat ‘em up and all that jazz. Toilet, poop and fart jokes are apparently going to be a part of my life for a long time to come, and quite possibly I’m raising my own little George and Harold. Which, if you think about it, is better than raising Harold and Kumar, right?

So thank you, George, Harold, Mr. Krupp, Captain Underpants, the Turbo Toilet 2000 and the Robo-Plunger for the hour that my boys spent creating and laughing and BOOM!-ing and dreaming of writing their own book. Don’t tell me that nothing good ever came out of toilet humor.

Because this? This is good.

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Not that my not-so-little children don’t make me doubt what I’m doing on a regular basis. Just in different ways.

I had forgotten, until today, that when BigBrother was baptized in the same church that we now attend again, the Children’s Choir sang a beautiful song after the baptism. They did so again today, and my eyes filled with tears that I fought to blink back. Swept back six years, I remembered standing in front of the church holding my one month and one day old on my first wedding anniversary and feeling both overwhelmed and overjoyed. I wonder if, in six years, today’s parents will remember the joy of being together, the beauty of children singing for another child, instead of the cries of their little boy.

December 18, 2005 — Apparently scared out of my mind.

February 3, 2008 — Very tired.

I look back at the pictures taken on each of the boys’ baptism days, two years apart, and I know that they must have been harried mornings. Baptized at one month and two-and-a-half months, neither boy was yet sleeping through the night. If I look closely, I see the exhaustion in my eyes brought about by days and weeks on end with interrupted (or no) sleep. I’m sure it took all of the energy and dedication we could muster to get out of bed that morning, make ourselves look presentable in the same sweater as it was the only one that fit and make our way to church. But the truth is that I don’t remember that rushed feeling, the exhaustion, the worry that there would be a diaper blowout accident, thus ruining the baptism outfit. I just remember standing up with my son and husband and feeling a peace.

It’s funny the way the mind works, erasing the bad and leaving you with the good, the encouraging, the stuff that lets you keep going forward. I’m hoping that the mind continues to do so and I’ll someday forget about the not-eating and the eye-rolling and the not-so-awesome stuff of where we are in parenting right now. Someday I expect to look back and think, “Oh yes, that was the point in time when BigBrother learned to read and LittleBrother wanted to help us do everything from make dinner to paint vehicles. Wasn’t that a lovely time?”

Because it is. Even if they cry in church — during their own baptism. Even when they refuse to eat. Even when you call them upstairs — three times — to get ready for church when you’re already pushing the envelope to get out the door on time in the first place. Even when they sing Scooby Doo for the umpteenth billion time. Even when they tour every bathroom ever made. Even when they roll their eyes.

This is a lovely time.

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Non-stop, all day, incessant questions that, for the most part, I can answer quite easily. For everything else, there’s Google. My sons know that if they stump me, I can turn to the nearest electronic device and just “Google it up, Mommy!”

Tonight, zooming around the living room in his pretend space ship instead of cleaning the playroom, he threw a doozy into the great wide open.

“Mommy, how many people are in space right now?”

I get a lot of space questions. Mostly about Earth, Mars, stars, astronauts and Saturn. You know, the one with the rings. It’s always everyone’s favorite. This was a new one. In fact, it’s just something I’ve never even considered.

“Well, Buddy. I don’t know. But that’s a fantastic question. Let me look it up.”

I smiled at him as my computer booted. He was still zooming around in circles, talking a mile a minute about how many people he thought were in space.

“It’s gotta be more than one, Mommy. You have to at least have someone else with you. Being in space alone would be boring. Unless you could call home. But then it would still be boring. I mean, minus walking in space and stuff. That would be cool.”

And on and on and on and on.

His mind amazes me. We’re alike in so many ways. I do remember having a space fascination and loving Saturn. But to wonder about how many people are in space right now? He just amazes me at times.

And so I turned to Google, Googled up “how many people are in Space right now,” and found — unsurprisingly — HowManyPeopleAreInSpaceRightNow.com.

“Come on, Buddy! I found something.”

And he read the top of the page, and then, his face lighting up, he yelled, “SIX!”

We then clicked through and found out that NASA puts out a video every (week)day about what’s going on at the International Space Station. Both boys hung on to the side of the couch and watched the — uh, shall we say — dry video as if it was the most interesting thing they have ever, ever watched. I stood behind them, watching them as they watched the video, wondering how my genes and FireDad’s genes came together to create these two little amazing wonders — who think so differently. I mean, we’re geeky in our own ways. It’s just fantastically interesting to wonder how it all came together.

BigBrother turned and whispered at me, so LittleBrother could still watch. “Mommy, can we watch this every day? I like to learn about what the astronauts are doing.”

How can you say no to that?

There may be six people in space right now, but I have two of the coolest imaginary astronauts in my living room.

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